Reflections by Randy Hodge
|Posted on October 21, 2018 at 9:30 AM|
I’m not sure if it is because I have been an educator for a long time or if it is because I have raised two children, but I often get asked questions about parenting. We have all heard the old adage that children do not come with instructions of how they should be raised which is definitely true and there are no guaranteed strategies that will work with every child, but there are some strategies however, that will increase the odds of raising successful children.
My wife and I have talked about this very topic over the years and would like to share some of the strategies we used when raising our children. We believe these tried and true ideas will help your family raise well-behaved and successful children. Here are some of our favorite suggestions:
• Spend quality time with each child every day, if possible. This may include taking a walk, taking your children to the park, going on a bike ride, playing a board game or going out in the yard and playing ball. Spending quality time with each child, each day is one of the most important things you can do with your child.
• Tuck your children into bed each night and give them a good night kiss. It guarantees your children will go to sleep each night feeling loved, safe and secure.
• Sit down for a family meal whenever you have the chance. This provides your family a chance to touch base and converse on a regular basis. Do not allow phones at the table.
• Take a vacation or get away with just your family. This allows you the opportunity to visit museums or parks, go hiking or any other fun activity that you share as a family. Put the phones away on your drive which allows you to talk and grow as family.
• Go to church as family. This provides parents the opportunity to share your values with your children. You can discuss the homily or anything else about the Mass on your way home.
• Schedule family activities on a regular basis. You can have family reading time and set aside time each night to read. You can have family movie night, family board game night or just sit down together and watch your favorite tv show.
• Take an interest in their school work. Keep an eye on their grades and engage them in conversation about what they are learning. Do not ask the question “what did you learn in school today?” The usual answer is “nothing.” Do ask them what topics were covered in various subject areas and what they thought of them. Many students are oral learners and take in information best if they are being quizzed out loud.
• Limit the amount of technology your children use and make sure to provide oversight for the technology they are using. While technology can be a great tool, too much technology or time on phones, video games, or watching television or movies is detrimental to child’s health and well-being.
There are so many other great ideas, but the most important thing you can do with your children is spend quality time with them and engage them in conversation. The more you talk with your kids the stronger your relationship with them. This is also your opportunity to teach them. It is important to enjoy your children while they are young because before you know it, they are all grown up, out of the house and on their own. You can never have regrets about spending too much quality time with your children while they are growing up.